The Half-Stroke Difference: What Losing a Speech Contest Taught Me About Mastery

Would I have loved to speak at the 2026 International Speech Contest in Vancouver, Canada? Absolutely! But, spoiler alert: that’s not happening this year. Still, what I got instead turned out to be pretty valuable.

Here’s something you might not know: I’m a proud member of Toastmasters International. Think of it as the global gym for public speaking, leadership, and all those skills that make you a workplace superstar. Toastmasters runs competitions all over the world—yes, even for people who love a good speech-off. My local club practically pushed me onto the stage, and I said, why not? The big prize this year? The World Championship in Vancouver, Canada, coming up in August. But to get there, you have to run the gauntlet: club contest, area contest, division contest, district contest, and finally, the international showdown. My plan? Win my way through district, snag that free Toastmasters trip to Vancouver, and take the stage.

First up: the club competition. Victory! Next stop: the area contest. Another win! Each round, the circle gets bigger. By April 11, I was up against the best from Northeast Texas, East Texas, Louisiana, and even Arkansas. At that level, everyone brings their A-game—and they did. This time, I landed in third place.

Honestly, I was only a little disappointed. The winner from Shreveport? He nailed it—no arguments from anyone, including me. My real frustration was with myself. Even after all that effort, I still felt a bit unorganized. Ever been there?

I poured more sweat into this speech than any other I’ve ever given. I tweaked, timed, rehearsed, edited—rinse and repeat—right up to delivery time. And still, no win. But here’s the twist: that might just be the best thing that happened to me this year.

I gave it everything I had. Seriously, I don’t think I’ve ever worked harder on a speech. I obsessed over every word, every pause, every punchline. Even so, after all that, I still felt like I missed the mark. My organization? Could’ve been tighter. My delivery? Not quite there. That speech is history now, but I walked away with some big lessons. Here are my top three.

Lesson one: The journey is more important than the destination. Yes, I know, that’s a cliché—but clichés stick around because they’re true. Missing a goal stings (and it should), but if you squeeze some growth out of it, it’s worth every bit of pain. Along the way, I noticed something: there are some amazing Toastmasters out there who never compete. Why? Because the odds are tough, and nobody likes losing. I get it. At this level, nobody’s giving bad speeches. Everyone’s good. So you work your tail off and still lose, and all of that effort just goes down the drain. Or does it? Which brings me to lesson two.

Lesson two: The journey matters because it’s how we grow. We either grow or die, but we do not stay the same. If losing helps you identify a weak spot, that is the first step to getting better. Here is where competitive golfers inspire me. I’m a terrible golfer, which means with a little coaching, I could probably shave five or ten strokes off my game. But take someone like Masters golf champion Rory McIlroy—he’s so good, he might spend hours with a coach just to trim half a stroke off his score. The better you get, the harder it is to improve. Yet, these pros grind for years to make tiny gains that most people wouldn’t even notice. But that half stroke? Over a season, it can be the difference between good and great. So, find those areas in your life where the effort is worth it—even if the results are barely visible. When I’m speaking professionally, I tell my audiences: sometimes the biggest wins are the ones only you notice. Speaking of those who keep going, that leads me to lesson three.

Lesson three: The people who really excel are the ones who get lessons one and two. They know the journey matters more than the destination, and they use every stumble as a stepping stone. Sure, sometimes you get a trophy or a pat on the back along the way. But the real winners are the ones who keep going when everyone else calls it quits—not because they’re chasing awards, but because they’re chasing their best selves. This mindset is what separates the good from the truly great.

A lot of experts call Jack Nicklaus the greatest golfer ever. He’s got 18 major wins—Tiger Woods has 15. Impressive, right? But here’s the kicker: Jack also finished second in majors 19 times, and third 9 times. Nobody else even comes close. Think about that—so many near-misses, so many times he could almost taste victory, only to fall short by a stroke or two. Most people would get discouraged and stop giving their all. Not Jack. He just kept swinging, no matter what place he finished. That’s why he ended up on top more than anyone else.

Thomas Edison? He failed hundreds of times in his attempts to invent the lightbulb. The problem was the filament—a tiny detail, but absolutely crucial. Every time something didn’t work, he just crossed it off the list and kept going. Each failure for Edison was an illuminating moment (pun intended) of what NOT to do. And eventually, he got it right.

Robert Duvall, who we lost recently, spent years in the background, taking small roles. He was nearly 40 before he landed big parts like Tom Hagen in The Godfather. He didn’t win his Oscar until he was over 50, for Tender Mercies. He just kept showing up, role after role. Maybe his best work was as Gus in Lonesome Dove—yet he didn’t even win the Emmy for that! Still, when the world said goodbye, everyone agreed: he was one of the greats.

It is a myth to think champions and award winners live lives of continuous victories. Achieving excellence does not mean eliminating failure; it means not accepting failure as final. There exists a summary of a failed politician’s life that motivational speakers, educators, business executives, and coaches have been citing for decades:*

Any guess as to who this was? I’ll give you a hint. Statues of him have been erected all over the world, and his face is on Mount Rushmore.

It was Abraham Lincoln.

Going up against the best in the Mid-South showed me just how thin the margin for error is at the top. Sure, I would have loved to compete in Vancouver. Speaking to thousands from around the world? That would have been a thrill—and probably great for my speaking career, too. But honestly, I think I got something even better: a clearer map for my journey ahead. I’ve spotted so many ways I can grow as a communicator. And I’ve been reminded that the process itself is more valuable than any trophy. Those lessons? Priceless.

So, what’s your “Vancouver”?

Mark

Dr. Mark Edge
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*Compiled by historian Lucas Morel from the Chronology in Selected Speeches and Writings/Lincoln by Don E. Fehrenbacher, ed., 1992.